by Anniel 8/11/15
Do you remember a time when you were a child and you absolutely knew your parents hated you and secretly wished you had never been born? Chances are that you thought just that when you were being “picked on,” or chastised for wrongdoing. To “show” your parents how mean they were and how much you “hated” them, you yelled one of two things, the first being, “I’ll show you —- I’m leaving and never coming back;” or, secondly, “You’ll be sorry when I’m dead!”
Even in the best of homes, with the greatest of parents, such thoughts are part of almost every child’s life. The old scene of the child taking off with a hobo stick over his shoulder and a sandwich tied in a kerchief made every adult laugh (except the mothers, who cried.) With few exceptions, the children all knew their parents really loved and cherished them.
Abortion has changed that scenario for today’s young people. The thought that their parents could actually have done something to kill them has steeped children in a toxic brew of guilt for being less than perfect, leading some of them to know, beyond doubt, in the child’s mind at least, that their parents wish they had aborted them, and would do so now if they could.
Some children may actually have first hand knowledge of abortion of siblings. Feelings on this could be fractured in a million ways. On one hand it could give a child a sense of entitlement. “Look how special I am, my parents love me so much they wanted me to have all they can provide, so I get whatever I want. Thanks, Mom and Dad.” Or there is this possible scenario, “I’m such a loser how could they still love me? They should get rid of me and try again.” To further complicate matters, both thoughts could simultaneously exist in the same child. Or what if he or she DESIRES a sibling or two and feels guilt for their loss?
That feeling of entitlement also infects parents, “I deserve a career, beautiful clothes, a boat, vacations, I want it all, and I want it NOW.” Would a child who hears that respect such shallow parents or feel wanted by them?
Then there are those crack-pot parents who, without a thought, drag their children to abortion rights demonstrations. What chance do their children have to remain unscathed in the midst of such horrors?
I was grown before I knew what an abortion was and could not believe Roe v. Wade made it legal. As I was writing this my mind went back some 40 years to my first pregnancy. Bear and I were older and both so happy to be starting a family. I didn’t realize that Alaska allowed abortion through the first two trimesters until I went in for a check-up at just under 6 months. The doctor informed me that I should consider abortion right away because I only had about two weeks to get one. Shocked, I said, “Absolutely not, my husband and I want this baby.”
The doctor looked at me with a sneer and said, “Your husband? What’s he got to do with it? It’s legally none of his business.”
That was the first time I knew that fathers were out of the picture. The child was his, too, and I, acting on my own, could destroy it. I cried all the way home. Today the man, even if married, may be the one pushing the choice for abortion, after all, one designer baby, maybe two at the most is all that’s wanted.
Choice – what a word to use in relation to something as sacred as pregnancy and the birth of a child. It’s just a choice. But today’s children feel and see the results of that choice. Perhaps that’s why they are so cynical, unhappy and self centered, all at the same time. Depression is endemic in teenagers, and human closeness is lost to them, so they turn more and more to texting and social media. They want to be affirmed and noticed, but don’t get physically close, except for “hooking up,” of course.
I never knew of anyone committing suicide when I was in high school, while there were 7 suicides in one school year when my older three were there. I no longer keep track unless I know the family involved. Drug use has risen alarmingly, even to kids in middle and grade school. Drugs, sex, abortion, and the attendant horrors that accompany it – these are the nation’s moral patrimony to our children.
And our representatives have not the humanity, courage nor grace to even defund Planned Parenthood. • (2061 views)