Tired of Apologies?

by Jerry Richardson   12/2/14

Are you as tired of apologies as I am?

What does an apology accomplish?  Usually they accomplish nothing other than ego satisfaction for the person demanding the apology.  When are apologies made?  After someone has been caught or stung with criticism for saying or doing something they should have had better sense than to say or do in the first place.

The only thing that most people apologize for nowadays is for the act of getting caught or for being found out.  Usually the apologizing people are NOT sorry for what they did or said; they are sorry that they got caught or that they are being lambasted in public.  This is what makes all of the called-for and arm-twisted apologies absolutely worthless.

This situation could be vastly improved if society substituted the Biblical remedy that follows true remorse for wrongdoing.  The biblical principle is very simple:

  1. Ask for forgiveness from those you wronged.  Forget the word apologize, it has become meaningless.  It is a hypocritically easy way out.
  2. Repent of what you did.  This means change your behavior and don’t do it again.

What is so difficult about that?  All of it is difficult.  It means that you actually are remorseful for what you did, for the fact that you hurt someone; not just that you are sorry you got caught or called-out.  It means you are remorseful enough to change.

Most people who apologize in public today are engaging in a hypocritical routine.  They don’t mean it; and given the same set of circumstance later-on, they will do the same thing.  So the real problem with most so-called apologies is hypocrisy—a scourge in our society today.

One of my heroes against hypocritical apologies is a man that I don’t really admire, James Carville.  Carville, although married to the very conservative Mary Matalan is very liberal, but he is a forthright-speaking man.  I don’t like his liberal, Democrat ideology but I love his public position on this stupid, hypocritical business of meaningless apologies.  Here is his elegant, and to be applauded, response to a demand for an apology:

James Carville, a political adviser to the Clintons, said Monday that he stood by his comment on Good Friday in which he compared Gov. Bill Richardson of New Mexico to Judas for his endorsement of Senator Barack Obama.

Though a Clinton campaign aide said that if he were Mr. Carville he would apologize, Mr. Carville himself, right, declared: ”I was quoted accurately and in context, and I was glad to give the quote, and I was glad I gave it. I’m not apologizing, I’m not resigning, I’m not doing anything.”  —James Carville on Apologizing


Carville gave an honest opinion and he stands by that opinion and he is not about to be so cowardly as to apologize simply because he has been attacked.

Republicans take note.

This is a major part of the problem that genuine Conservatives have with RINOs and CINOs.  RINOs and CINOs take strong verbal stances on political issues, but as soon as they are openly challenged, they begin to look for a politically-safe way to sit-on the fence. They waffle; they walk back; they clarify; they apologize.

Wafflers, RINOs and CINOs, please study a strong opponent, James Carville.

Study, think, prepare, then say what you believe; and then stand-by what you said.  Don’t put your finger in the wind and decide, based upon criticism, what course of action you will support.

In other words, operate on principle not upon political polls.

Man up! Operate on principle and forget about insincere apologies.

And if you realize that you have actually been wrong, have hurt or damaged someone, then use the biblical remedy:

  1. Ask for forgiveness from those you wronged.  Forget the word apologize, it has become meaningless.  It is a hypocritically easy way out.
  2. Repent of what you did.  This means change your behavior and don’t do it again.

©2014, Jerry Richardson

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4 Responses to Tired of Apologies?

  1. Timothy Lane says:

    There are times when one should apologize, particularly in private matters, but it’s true that most people are only sorry they were caught. Then, too, for liberals such an apology is usually sufficient, but for conservatives it rarely is. (I suspect this is one reason the squishes are so eager to apologize. It’s sort of like the old-guard Bolsheviks confessing to their “crimes” during the Yezhovshchina: They hope that confession will lead to forgiveness. It never does, any more than it did for Zinoviev or Bukharin.)

  2. Anniel says:

    My daughter tells me these are called “fauxpologies” now and everyone knows just exactly what they are worth. . .

  3. Jerry Richardson says:

    Here’s a typical “fauxpology” from Ferguson, MO.

    (CNN) — Michael Brown’s stepfather says he’s sorry for his emotional outburst to demonstrators after learning Officer Darren Wilson wouldn’t be indicted in the teen’s death. But he says he’s unfairly taking heat for the rioting that followed.

    A Ferguson Apology

    Of course, “he’s sorry” but it’s all so “unfair” for anyone to criticize him or consider holding him accountable for his actions. Of course.

  4. Timothy Lane says:

    Well, in his case he has even more reason than usual, since he could (in theory) be charged with incitement to riot, or sued by the victims of that riot.

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